Kindness Matters!

Kindness Matters!

What is it going to take to start conducting our lives as an extension of this simple and life-changing truth?

1) What do I mean by the above statement? How can you apply this quote to your life?

2) How does this statement about Kindness Matters!  change the very way that you engage in life?

(Please sit with this for a while. Surrender to the energy evoked by the statement and resist looking for the answers. Please do not post a theoretical spiritual response)

How does this quote apply to your every
day living experience? Please resist the urge to entertain theories
about this quote – what is the direct experience of what I am inviting
you to explore!



13 Responses to “Kindness Matters!”

  1. on 18 Jun 2018 at 9:19 am Diane

    Being kind to myself is simply not becoming a victim to the petty tyrants that show up in my life, whether they are outside forces in form, or inside forces of doubt. I will meet them head on / or rather heart on and be kind to see that simple misunderstandings happen – but are not permanent, AND most important “they don’t define me”, “they simply ‘inform’ me”.

  2. on 11 Jun 2018 at 10:45 am Betty

    Carol: As someone who has participated in prolonging the agony of a bad marriage by sharing my story with others, I know the truth is that those stories are the most damaging to ourselves, continuing to self-inflict the pain of the perceived injustices. And then, I can go one step further and know that that self is not even who I am. Ahh, freedom.

  3. on 11 Jun 2018 at 7:40 am ceejaypea

    After my divorce I often used examples of the heinous things my ex had ‘done to me’ in discussions about something or someone else. My ex had long since moved away and so it was unlikely that anyone would know him. How convenient for me. I eventually came to see that and to see that I was totally leaving out my contribution to the deterioration of our marriage. As I owned my part he became less the example and I began to speak of how I had changed, what I had let go of, what I no longer did. This changed many stories, my behavior and my speech, and in addition to celebrating owning my own garbage, it was a great kindness to others not to drag them into gossip, especially from the safety of an unknown being as the object of our stored up anger. Namaste.

  4. on 11 Jun 2018 at 3:50 am missy

    Be kind to the whole world around us and it returns kindness 100 fold and it’s so much fun to be alive! Recently I’ve been helping switch out some art with a local group next to where I work and it’s suppose to be fun and pleasant right? Well life happens , folks were late getting older work down so new could go up and one petty tyrant was really rude and was stuck in their tyrant-ness and after the fact I’ve had to apologize for her -no fun. Talk about a sweet pot turning sour in seconds. I see it attract others to tell their tails of woe – like glue to blame the world. Hey, we all have bad days it doesn’t mean we have to drag everything around us down with the verbal details. Change the story as you say Keshav and Smile, it helps open the heart. Peace , Namaste

  5. on 10 Jun 2018 at 9:14 pm Betty

    I am not able to respond to that, Keshav. I just know that my heart soars when I go on a discussion site and people are calling for the need to be kinder to those in need. Myself and others are calling for tolerance of those that on the outside seem different from us but who are really just the same as us, really are us. And knowing that there are so many who believe we are all in this together and must help each other and that we truly care about what happens to others. We are listening to people's dilemmas and we are supporting them with our words. We are saying we hear you. It is not lip service. We are in this for the long run. And we will do what we can to change what we can in order to help you. This collective intent is palpable and undeniably powerful.

  6. on 10 Jun 2018 at 5:33 pm Keshav Howe

    For me, an outward expression of kindness has to start with a commitment to no longer identify with highly disruptive "self talk." And, the more intolerant "I am" to that inner petty tyrant, the more I find myself to be intolerant of the collective expressions of such discordant behavior – particularly with petty tyrants such as Donald Trump. It does not matter how we got here, or how to assign blame. It is up to "us" to deal with it.
    What does this have to do with Kindness?!

  7. on 10 Jun 2018 at 8:16 am Betty

    Kindness proceeds from awareness. There “I” am love and love is all I have to give. I have been taught to be kind by my mother, my teachers, and by the example of others. But the truest kindness is not given from a place of separation. It doesn’t involve a me giving to a you. That sort of kindness is”doing the right thing” kindness. Or looking for a payback from kindness, no matter how subtle that motivation may be. And if we were all that sort of kind the world would be a better place.

    True kindness isn’t something we do. It is what we are. It happens without a thought. It just is. We all know how to say a kind word, or to do a kind deed. We all know when we have failed to be kind because our separate self was focused on what our separate self needed or wanted.

    It’s not a question of right or wrong or good or bad. But presence is where true kindness arises from, it cannot be limited to a you or a me. Because in presence we are all one. What affects a “part” affects the whole. If I do something to you in order to benefit me, if I have hurt you, I have hurt myself. And I will know this once I look at it from the perspective of presence.

    I am not sure what people mean when they refer to having kindness for themselves or having faith in themselves. But I suspect that self is a self that is in separation. It is a self that needs shoring up. The true self that we all are does not require anything from us. As Keshav would say nothing needs to be added. Who we are doesn’t require self-esteem, our own kindness or anything else. True kindness dwells in the home of the true self, presence.

  8. on 08 Jun 2018 at 9:59 pm Sarah Whitney

    I think committing to kindness is recognizing that our undivided presence always has an impact on one another, and choosing for the impact to be intentionally good. If I get caught up in myself and don’t think about how my actions impact people around me, it usually has a negative or neutral impact. I think this is the first part of kindness- recognizing what you are already are contributing to a situation.

    Consciously choosing to process my inner battles so my family and friends don’t feel my stressors is definitely a practice I’m working to improve. But once I get out of being mired in myself everything feels easier. The second part of kindness feels like connection. Kindness feels like compassionate connection. It’s seeing beyond my experience and sharing happiness in action or compassionate presence. Definitely worth working towards!

  9. on 08 Jun 2018 at 4:29 pm Keshav Howe

    If we are not willing and able to tend to, and maintain, a clean and clear room, how can we "expect" the rest of the house to clean itself.

  10. on 08 Jun 2018 at 9:13 am sasanijjs

    . From my experience only attachments to thought based reactions and labels create a false sense of separation which breeds judgment. Through the eyes of stillness kindness seems to be the only option. The choice is quite clear.

  11. on 08 Jun 2018 at 7:11 am ceejaypea

    Kindness softens the world. Namaste.

  12. on 08 Jun 2018 at 7:08 am ceejaypea

    As all others and myself are one and the same, I agree DD. Be kind to all, especially those who suffer the most, and those who have the least, and those whose hearts are blind, and those whose hearts are full . . . the powerful and the meek, those we love and those we see as enemies . . . I could go on, but you get the idea. Namaste.

  13. on 07 Jun 2018 at 10:08 am Diane

    I can start by first being kind to myself.

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