Hell is…

Placing conditions on Happiness.

28 Responses to “Hell is…”

  1. on 02 Jul 2019 at 8:41 am ceejaypea

    Thank you, Keshav, for your post. It made me realize that my need to be right is completely fear driven, and ends in separation where I am alone. Namaste

  2. on 02 Jul 2019 at 7:31 am sasanijjs

    Last nights session was a wonderful reminder that there’s nothing left to do. Thank you

  3. on 02 Jul 2019 at 3:15 am Diane

    Hell is seeking approval.

  4. on 01 Jul 2019 at 12:12 pm Keshav Howe

    The realization that I am once again on the highway to hell, is when I am aware that I am the lead character in a nasty dream of separation – where I have chosen to be right, at the expense of being happy.

  5. on 29 Jun 2019 at 2:21 pm missy

    Hell is when the humidity rises on the East Coast and a bunch of us are getting two art shows ready and putting them up. No patience by anyone ha! Working together becomes all for one to just be done, then leave. Peace is when they do and I have the walls to myself to finish hanging my own art quietly. Amusingly two teens were whispering and making out behind the elevator next to my wall… awww young Love.

  6. on 28 Jun 2019 at 7:06 am Keshav Howe

    Focusing attention on blaming others or shaming ourselves for past, present, or future "indiscretions" is Hell. That is the perfect way to avoid peace in the here and now. And, also, the perfect time for all of us to take back responsibility for our own happiness. 

  7. on 27 Jun 2019 at 8:13 pm Lori

    Keshav, i am confused about expectations. Am I taking this too literal? If I have cared for my car and turn the key, I expect it to start. If it doesn’t, I can find peace in the situation. Still, isn’t it an expectation? When I hire someone to do a job and they agree to do the work, isn’t there an expectation or assumption that they will. I understand that my expectation could lead to hell if they don’t do the agreed work. What I don’t understand is where the other person’s accountability comes in. Is it all an inside job? Never expect the car to work or a person to follow through, just find peace whatever happens then act from peace?

  8. on 26 Jun 2019 at 7:39 pm Keshav Howe

    Keshav’s Book Club selection. I just finished listening to the audio book: The Eighth Sister by Robert Dugoni. The writing is brilliant!

  9. on 26 Jun 2019 at 7:28 pm Keshav Howe

    For me, the hardest obstacle to fully relaxing into the moment is when I have attached to an expectation "about how the moment should be." What helps to wake up from that dream of separation is an awareness of the intense buildup of physical tension in my hands, shoulders, and eyes; to a point where I need to shift attention and put myself on time-out. To me, that is an ongoing commitment to consciously relax attention into the undivided nature of the here and now; as often as I can – mostly by refraining from comparing this moment with another.
    Spend some time playing a shamanic drum; step out of your mind and allow the drum beat to mirror the pulse of the universe. Let go and let drum. The feel of being a tool that is holding the drum while it is beating, is also refreshing mind-fuck.

  10. on 26 Jun 2019 at 4:09 pm Keshav Howe

    If there is any need for further ligation regarding the meaning of words such as "fatalism," please do so via a social media platform such as face book. The salient point here, is: "how do we avoid peace in this moment.

  11. on 26 Jun 2019 at 11:01 am Diane

    CJP. I don’t view acceptance of what is as fatalism! It is a jumping off point t to chose what and whatever may be necessary.

  12. on 25 Jun 2019 at 5:08 pm Keshav Howe

    On my way to the store today, life offered me a time-out. My car was first in line at a train crossing – as a long, long, long train whizzed by. Initially, my attention was only interested in keeping track of time (classic diversion).
    The inherent peace in the moment became apparent as attention relaxed into the sound and beat of the long chain of train cars hitting the bump in the tracks; right in from of me. It was the familiar 4-5 beats per second where my shamanic drum really hums. My whole being relaxed and got lost in the moment…
    I was so grateful for the time out.
    A few minutes after the train passed, I got to the store and found everything on my list. Given that I had little cash, I paid with my trusty debit card. When prompted to enter my pin number, I entered the number I have been using for years. It just did not work. Empty handed, I drove back home…
    I was so grateful for the time out.

  13. on 25 Jun 2019 at 9:22 am Betty

    CJP: Fatalism infers that I am not responsible and I can’t make choices. I agree that, that is not the same as acceptance, which excludes neither.

  14. on 25 Jun 2019 at 9:18 am Betty

    Thank you everyone for the reminder that “this isn’t the retirement I expected and planned for” is not a helpful attitude. It is a desperate feeling, as I don’t seem to have the time or the means to alter it. First and foremost there is finding the good in this moment. “At my age I shouldn’t have to…..” gets me no where. Separation only makes this moment more difficult. Acceptance of this moment is certainly the more peaceful choice. From that space I can feel love and support and am aware of all that is good without changing anything.

  15. on 25 Jun 2019 at 7:36 am ceejaypea

    Diane – I think you are confusing acceptance with fatalism, where everything is predetermined, a state that would bore me silly. Namaste.

  16. on 24 Jun 2019 at 10:44 am Keshav Howe

    "How can I open to the peace in this moment?" – is taking back my power to respond to changing life circumstances as they arise.

  17. on 24 Jun 2019 at 9:46 am Diane

    Apparently there is no such thing as “supposed to be”. There is just “what happens” or “what is”. Expectations create the illusion of “supposed to be”. For me what happens happens and that apparently is what is supposed to be if I need to label it as such!

  18. on 24 Jun 2019 at 8:48 am Keshav Howe

    "Life not working as it is supposed to" is the ego's lament – while we continue to experience life through a veil of misleading expectations.

  19. on 23 Jun 2019 at 9:55 am Lori

    Keshav, what happens when things don’t go as they are suppose to? Experiencing that right now while helping my daughter move from one Brooklyn apartment to another. While there are expectations like the movers arriving at the scheduled time and charging the quoted price, there is also the reality of what is actually happening. The movers came two hours early and padded the price. Still, we found being present and clear, accepting what is and doing what needs to be done with love, is seeing us through. Now day 2 with a rented van and friends. Daughter driving the van for the first time. I am finding breathing and praying helps too.

  20. on 22 Jun 2019 at 5:39 pm Diane

    Keshav- that I don’t know. Leaving it open ! I don’t know how it is supposed to work out.

  21. on 22 Jun 2019 at 3:55 pm Keshav Howe

    What happens when all does not work out as it is supposed to?

  22. on 22 Jun 2019 at 9:14 am Diane

    Well my carport was destroyed yesterday with A microburst! It happened 10 minutes after I left in my 2 day old brand new car that was parked under the carport ! Phew. It may not have hurt the car but grateful I wasn’t home. My response was acceptance right from the start ! A freak occurrence. I leave for CT on Tuesday so hoping the insurance person can get here Monday. But it is out of my control now. All I can do is wait ! Patience and the intent that all will work out the way it is supposed to!

  23. on 22 Jun 2019 at 5:54 am sasanijjs

    When I am closed off to happiness I find mind to be in a space of “ya but your…”. When I remain open to happiness all situations are free flowing. I notice this while driving and listening to music. When I am closed off I do not to follow the natural desire to sing out loud. On the other hand, remaining open allows for that invitation to be in love with the present moment and sing. For me, the simple choice of “singing” in all circumstances, opens up a world of peace and happiness. Both of which are unconditional.

  24. on 21 Jun 2019 at 12:44 pm Betty

    My initial response to this is : hell is living in the illusion of separation.

  25. on 21 Jun 2019 at 12:38 pm Betty

    Diane and Carol: ditto!

  26. on 20 Jun 2019 at 7:22 am venusrising

    Diane , A perfect way to say it . Consist and to the point . Thanks

  27. on 18 Jun 2019 at 8:49 am Diane

    Yes it is. Placing conditions on happiness implies expectations, and conditions and expectations are based on beliefs. Living this way takes me away from being present and accepting what is, and also prevents making changes from presence.

  28. on 18 Jun 2019 at 4:54 am ceejaypea

    Hell is placing conditions on life. Namaste.

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