If you go to war with mind, you will be at war forever. You cannot stop mind, because it does not actually exist except as part of a dream. So, even trying to get rid of the mind is mind. The beauty of this illusionary mind is that it can inquire into itself. Make friends with mind and notice that the answer to all "why" questions that it gets involved in are actually the same – "Who Cares" (this is actually very entertaining). When a "life situation" arises pose the following question: "What is here that is not a thought or a feeling?" Or, any other question that mind cannot answer, such as: "What is more, without moving towards anything?" or the old Zen question "What is the sound of one hand clapping?"
I look forward to your insights!
Keshav