The integrity of the words we share with each other is critical! Words have to be handled with the same level of care as handling a deadly weapon!
The Words We Use…
by Keshav Howe | May 12, 2023 | Community Insights | 7 comments
The integrity of the words we share with each other is critical! Words have to be handled with the same level of care as handling a deadly weapon!
My mom always said “the pen is mightier than the sword”. Words are very powerful and often blurted out based on our thoughts, and thoughts may not even belong to us. We need to take care and as Keshav hos often advised: “is it true, is it kind, is it the right time and place” before uttering a word. I have made my share of jumping the gun with words and have inflicted pain. I am working on this.
Thank you for the reminder, Diane!
Yes: it only takes a moment of presence to discern if the words we use are true, kind, and a bridge to a common ground of understanding.
Every time I experience one self, I also realize there isn’t much point in 99.9 percent of Joeness. I can choose to love him , but he’s at his best when he shuts the fuck up ,and allows stillness to speak.
I have learned to only say “yes” or “no” if it is truly how I feel. If someone asks me a question to which there is only one “right” answer it is a demand or expectation, not a question. If I say “yes” to avoid feeling uncomfortable, as Joe said, it will end up being worse than if I had just been honest in the first place. If I am not true to myself I end up betraying myself. Conflict ensues, usually with me resenting someone else for my own self-betrayal.
Words are powerful. They can do much good or cause much harm. I try to consider the consequences of my words before I speak. “Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?” This has been repeated many times here and elsewhere. It pays think before you speak. Nothing to regret. No harm unnecessarily done.
I have also taken notice in my minds need to share gossip. There is usually never any point other than having something “juicy” to share.
I have a habit of being “not an asshole” in situations that require boundaries. This inevitably leads to the “real asshole” to show its wings ,and spill out words that tend to be harsh and personalized.
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